How Grief Affects Your Brain
There’s a particular kind of confusion that hits grieving women a few months into the loss. You can’t focus. You can’t remember things. You walk into rooms and forget why. You read a paragraph three times and still don’t know what it said. You find yourself standing in the kitchen having no idea what you […]
Grief at Night & How to Handle It
There’s a particular kind of loneliness that lives in the late evening hours after a loss. The day has ended. The people you talked to during it have gone home or gone to bed. The phone has stopped buzzing. The distractions have run out. The house is quiet in a way that wasn’t quiet during […]
Can Grief Cause Anxiety Attacks
There’s a moment that surprises many grieving women, often months into the loss, sometimes years in. You’re in a grocery store. Or driving. Or sitting at a school event. Or lying in bed. And suddenly, the body takes over. The chest tightens to the point of pain. The breathing won’t go deep. The heart races. […]
Grief & Anxiety Connection
There’s a side of grief that doesn’t get talked about as clearly as the sadness. The buzzing. The chest that won’t settle. The mind that races, especially at night. The hands that go cold for no reason. The constant low-grade dread that runs underneath everything. The sense that something bad is about to happen, even […]
Coping with Anniversaries After Loss
There’s a phenomenon that surprises most grieving women, even years after a loss. The body knows the dates. You don’t have to look at the calendar. Something in you starts tightening a week or two before. The sleep gets worse. The mood drops. The energy goes flat. By the time you consciously realize what’s happening, […]
Grief & Anger Explained
There’s a stage of grief that nobody warns you about in the way they should. It doesn’t show up first. It often arrives weeks or months after the loss, when the people in your life have stopped asking how you’re doing. You think you’ve been getting through the worst of it. Then out of nowhere, […]
What to Expect in the First Year of Grief
There’s a particular kind of confusion that lives inside the first year after a loss. People keep asking how you are. You don’t have a real answer. You’re surviving. You’re functioning, sort of. You’re getting through the days. But you can’t quite describe what’s happening inside you, because it keeps changing. The grief that was […]
Grief & Fear of Future
There’s a particular kind of fear that arrives after a major loss, and it doesn’t get named clearly enough. It’s not the fear of forgetting the person, or the fear of moving on too fast, or any of the fears the grief books prepare you for. It’s the fear of the future itself. The recognition […]
How to Express Grief Safely
There’s a particular kind of woman who has been carrying grief for a long time without anywhere to put it down. She’s been functional. She’s been showing up. She’s been the one other people lean on. The grief has stayed inside her, in the chest, in the shoulders, in the way her sleep has been […]
Why Grief Feels Endless
There’s a sentence many grieving women say to themselves, sometimes out loud to one trusted person, that almost no one says in public. This is never going to end. It comes up months after the loss. It comes up years after. It comes up in moments when the grief, which was supposed to be getting […]