Divorce & Depression

Divorce & Depression

Divorce can pull you into a darkness that surprises you with its depth. It is not just sadness. It is a heaviness that sits on your chest, drains your energy, and makes ordinary days feel like too much. If you are dealing with divorce depression, the kind where you struggle to get out of bed, […]

Starting Over After Divorce at 40

Starting Over After Divorce at 40

Going through a divorce at 40 carries a weight all its own. You are not a young woman with decades stretching ahead and nothing built yet. You have a history, maybe children, a career, a home, a whole life that was supposed to go a certain way. And now you are starting over, at an […]

Divorce & Anxiety

Divorce & Anxiety

Few things rattle your nerves like the end of a marriage. Even when divorce is the right choice, even when you wanted it, the anxiety can be overwhelming. Your mind races. Your chest feels tight. You lie awake running through worst-case scenarios about money, the kids, where you will live, and who you even are […]

Co-parenting Emotional Healing

Co-parenting Emotional Healing

There’s a particular kind of impossible position that co-parents find themselves in. The relationship is over. The healing is supposed to be starting. And the person you’re trying to heal from is still in your life, weekly, sometimes daily, because you share children. There’s no clean break. There’s no going no-contact. There’s no putting him […]

Dating After Divorce Tips

Dating After Divorce Tips

There’s a particular kind of advice about dating after divorce that doesn’t quite fit most of the women it’s aimed at. Get back out there. Put yourself on the apps. Be open. Don’t be too picky. The clock is ticking. Have fun with it. Don’t bring up the divorce on the first date. Don’t talk […]

Coping with Shared Custody Stress

Coping with Shared Custody Stress

There’s a particular kind of dread that builds in shared custody households before every handoff. It’s worst on Sunday evenings, for many women, when the week with the kids ends and the days without them begin. The bag is being packed. The kids are getting ready. The clock is moving toward the time when they’ll […]

How to Rebuild Confidence After Divorce

How to Rebuild Confidence After Divorce

There’s a particular moment that happens to many women after a divorce becomes final. You’re standing in a smaller version of your old life. Maybe a smaller home. Maybe the same home with half the furniture. Maybe a kitchen that’s quieter than it used to be. And you catch your reflection in something, and the […]

Co-parenting Emotional Challenges

Co-parenting Emotional Challenges

There’s a category of stress that doesn’t get named clearly enough. The chronic emotional weight of co-parenting after a relationship has ended. It looks fine from the outside. You and the other parent are doing what you’re supposed to do. The kids are getting picked up and dropped off. The schedules are mostly working. The […]

Rebuilding Identity After Separation

There is a question that arrives after separation, not always right away, but eventually, and often in the quiet moments when there is nothing to do but think. The question is simple and at the same time one of the hardest a person can face. Who am I now? Not who were you in the […]

How to Emotionally Recover After Divorce

Emotional recovery after divorce does not begin when the papers are signed. For most people, it does not even begin in the weeks immediately following. It begins when a person finally stops running from what happened and decides, sometimes reluctantly and without a clear sense of how, to actually face it. If you are reading […]